It's been a whirlwind week

She began this adventure with a friend.  They would get jobs, find an apartment and share expenses while making money to pad the bank accounts for the winter.  She went to the Cape, found a job and a sublease for the summer season that was only 2 blocks from the job.  It sounded perfect.  The roommate was excited too but had not found a job yet.  On the Thurs. before they were to move, she got a call from the person she was subleasing from only to be told the building owner did not allow a sublease and the apartment was no longer available.  She called her new boss and told her what had happened so the new employer told her, no problem and moved her start date back to May 13th.  Now she had to find another apartment!  So, instead of moving she went back to the Cape to find another apartment. 

She contacted several people and saw a couple of places, but one was better than the others, all inclusive and only 1/2 mile from the new job.  It was available and the girls could move in the next weekend (this past weekend - Sunday).  That was fine, until her friend's truck broke down and would take most of the money saved for the deposit and first month's rent to fix.  Wed. she was told by her friend, she couldn't make the move becasue she no longer had the money and hadn't found a job yet.  

The apartment was found based on two people sharing expenses, she can't afford to do it by herself and she has to be out of her apartment in three days...  Now what?  She talked to the new landlord and he said he'd work with her on the rent since it wasn't her fault the friend backed out.  For some reason, she felt something was still wrong but couldn't put her finger on it.  The moving truck was going to be the use of her friend's truck - now broken down and her boyfriend's trailer they would hitch to it.  Now she had no roommate and no way to move her stuff.

She began a frantic effort to sell most of her furniture and several items she no longer used or felt she needed at this time in her life.  She was successful for the most part, but didn't get nearly what she had hoped for price wise.  I found a cargo van to rent and on Sunday, with the help of 5 of her friends we got everything she had left loaded into the cargo van and ready to go.  When she called the new landlord to tell him what time she would be arriving he told her she couldn't move in, it would be too late.  She asked about getting in first thing Monday morning and again he said, NO.  She all but pleaed with him to figure out how she could get in the apartment, unload the van and get back in time to return the van - since it was a 24 hour rental.  He was , as she said, rude to her and was yelling at his girlfriend who had said she would be happy to let her in first thing in the morning.

She sat on my couch in tears, saying, "I can't go but I have no where else to go.  I don't want a landlord that is mean like that and he lives up-stairs. "   Her boyfriend said his family siad she could stay with them and store her things in their basement until she found a place.  They live about 30 minutes from the new job.  She decided to drive the van there, try to find a storage unit and if she couldn't find one, she'd accept their offer to put everything in the basement for now.  Last night she and her boyfriend returned the cargo van, came back here and finished cleaning the apartment, and drove back to the cape.  She will stay with his family until she finds a place of her own - not relieing on a roommate to cover expenses.  A little while ago she called, said she found some rental that are for seasonal workers and hoped to find a spot in the next day or two.

I only paid for the cargo van's rental.  I did not offer to give her extra money for  anything else.  Today I handed over the rest of the rent she owned on this apartment to the building manager in an envolope she handed me before they set off to the Cape.  She paid her own bills, mostly, this time.  I was pretty good, just slipped a little with the van.  But she is on the cape and her job starts in two days - hopefully she'll have her place by then.  It feels good to let go and know I kept my mouth shut about all the obstacles in her way - allowing her to figure them out for herself.  It was killing me - but I kept my mouth shut.  This letting go stuff is SO HARD!  But I am proud of her.  Now we'll get to see her fly.  Keep your fingers crossed.